I'm writing to you because today that was me. Or at least it's how I feel right now. I've walked into a home with sick children, some very sick, and a messy house, and laundry to do, groceries to buy, rooms to clean, dishes to wash, teaching to be done, a lawn to be mowed, and a to-do list longer then one side of paper. Honestly? I just feel overwhelmed. It's like I'm peering at a world, my life, with so much to do and just me staring at it not knowing where to start.
I kind of want to sit in the corner, put my head in my lap, and have a good cry.
And I must make dinner, but between you and me, I cannot find my counter.
I know I'm not to live in overwhelm. You're not either. So here are my words, what I remembered, while sitting on my couch looking at every single thing that needed to be done on that way too long list.
It won't last.
You are not alone.
You are not the only mom who feels overwhelmed at time. Life pushes so much on our plate. Do this, do that, do more, do less, do extra, do and do and do. It's exhausting and overwhelming and sometimes can feel very lonely. But, you, are not alone. All those do things don't define us as mothers. They simply don't. Do not measure your worth based on what you have left to do.
Oh, dear overwhelmed mom, you will move out of this feeling. I know you will. I did. It's not dependent upon having everything perfect - my counters are still buried, my dishes waiting to be done, and the house a mess. It was a change of my heart and of my perspective. I wanted everything done immediately. Not possible. Did you hear me? Not possible. That's where the overwhelm came - I saw too much to do and made it impossible for me to get it done in the five minutes I wanted it fixed in. So instead, I prayed, and changed my perspective - I did one thing. I sat down, watched two little boys of mine blowing bubbles into their iced tea, and I laughed. I found a bit of joy that I missed when I let overwhelm rule.
You're stronger than overwhelm.
So mothers, stand up, brush yourself off, and find one thing to do. That's it. One thing. You can do one thing. You can. Just keep doing one thing. That's it.
Hug those kids. Play with them. Let them make you laugh. They need you.
You can beat overwhelm. Find joy instead.
And you will.
this post is part of an ongoing series of letters to moms.
Other letters include - Dear Moms with Littles, Dear Tired Mom, Dear Mom of the Little Boy with Celiac Disease.
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