5 Ways to be More Present Today.



Lately, the end of the day will come, and I'll rest on the couch, staring out the window and the night sky, and I'll reflect on my day. Often, sadly, the day races by so fast that when I look back at it I don't remember much. I know I worked, cleaned, taught, wrote, cleaned some more, cooked, got littles dressed, read, tweeted, swept, and yet it becomes this massive blur of information smooshed together into the package of a day. And often, it's not intentional - it's about finishing everything that needs to get done and then missing out on the relationships that are right there in front of my face.

Read a book, momma? Will you play a game? Can we go for a walk? Can I help you make dinner? Can I go to the store? Will you look at this picture?

Questions. To me. That if I'm not careful will stop. They'll stop because my kids will learn that I'm too busy with all of this stuff that needs to get finished for tomorrow and thus I'm losing out on today. Today. This gift, that too many times, when I'm pondering my day, I realize that I didn't grab. I made excuses. It will only take me a minute to check my email, I'll quick fold this laundry, I don't want to read now, just a minute, we'll play a game when I'm done with this - and all those excuses rob me from today.

So now, today, I am sharing with you five ways to wake up and be more present. Because honestly,  what truly matters is that we cherish the moments of time that are right in front of us. Wake up with me. Cherish today. Embrace the little things. Live Boldly.

1. Don't Rush. I am notoriously busy. A rusher. When I learned to play piano, my teacher's biggest struggle was getting me to slow down. I'd want to race through those notes just to prove that I could play it fast. And yet, often, the piece needed to be played slow - and when it was this unbelievable beauty would emerge. It's like life. Don't rush through right now so that you can finish everything on the list. Don't race through two year olds wishing they were four year olds and could do all this stuff and were a bit neater. Learn to embrace where ever you are - and slow down. Just for a bit.


2. Learn to Wonder. My kids are almost always asking me these questions - mom I wonder what would happen if we did this or why is the sky pink now or when can I do this or what happens if you do that - they wonder. Do you wonder? Or in our adult states have we lost that freedom, that gift, of wonder? Start to wonder along with your kids. Begin to see the world with a different lens - with eyes that marvel at the sunset, or the smallness of a hummingbird, or the amazing gift to watch life unfold right in front of you. Don't lose wonder. Regain it.

3. Snapshot the Moment. Part of the reason I love instagram is that it is like the scrapbook of life that I never got around to putting together. I'll look through instagram pics and they're different then other pics - they're raw, they're about the moment, they're really about beauty and family. And coffee. Think of life, and the moments tucked within, with an instagram filter. What would you capture? What do you want to remember? Is it the little one staring out the window? Their feet? The sun as it reflects through your window? Start to see your everyday different and embrace it.


4. Check your Thoughts. Even when I say I'm going to be intentional so often my mind is racing through the 2934 things that I should have accomplished yesterday. Check your thoughts. Are you letting thoughts of failing, not measuring up, the never-ending to-do list, and all that cloud your moment right now? Put them to the curb. Write down those things, and then tell yourself that you will get back to them, but for now, you're enjoying this time. You'll get to that stuff, but if you allow all of it to constantly play in your mind you will not be as intentional and aware. Check them constantly.

5. Be Authentic. Let's face it. There are some days that are just plain hard and the last thing you want to be is in the moment. That's okay. Not everyday is going to be amazing, and certainly not every minute of the day is fabulous. Be real about it. There are times where I have to simply tell my kids that I'm too tired to read right now, but I love you and will you remind me later? That's real. I cannot be super mom - she really doesn't exist. Being present to today means admitting that sometimes you need a break, or you pop in a movie, or you just rest. It's a day. However, living intentionally and aware takes work and diligence. So again, check your thoughts, just keep trying, and be real.


Tonight, when I go to sleep, I want to rest there knowing that I gave it my best. And I hope that for you as well - wherever you are in your journey. Maybe it's one new thing that you do - read, or step back, or go for that walk, or rock extra long in the morning - what matters is that you tried. It's really not about being perfect, it's about the constant effort to just keep trying.

Life is a journey. Embrace today.

Which point resonated with you the most?

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18 comments:

Debbie said...

Wonderful reminders to start the day with! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

I have really been appreciative of your 'polite insistence' in reminding us to be intentional. I find it has changed my whole relationship with my kids :) Instead of rushing through the day to get done with someone else's list for me, I S...L...O...W down and truly listen to my kids.

My 9yr old DD is just a chatterbox full of ideas and feelings. She has told me how much she loves our conversations. Thank goodness I am now there for her!

My 7yr old DS is hilarious as he believes he is a wizard. Since I am the only family member who believes him :) I am privy to all sorts of wonderful tales of his powers.

My 12yr old DS still shares his thoughts and days with me. I am SO thankful that he has not yet closed down and I pray that he never will.

Oh yeah, as for the one that resonated the most with me? No. 1 Don't Rush, of course! lol

Thank you, thank you!
KatieJ
North Country

Tannis said...

Oh this whole post resonated with me today! This month and the next 2 are always my busiest, and they often pass in a blurr. Days mesh together, moments often lost, with a tired blank expression on my face. Thanks for the reminder today to be present!

Jenn said...

"It's really not about being perfect, it's about the constant effort to just keep trying."

Thanks for the reminder... and happy Monday :)

Tawnee said...

Excellent points. I have been reflecting on the same things lately and making a concerted effort to not let the days, weeks, and years pass us by as we prepare for tomorrow. Thanks.

Theresa said...

Great advice. I had to learn the same lessons when juggling 4 kids under the age of 6, including a set of twins with medical issues.

I would rather the floor be sticky than miss laughing with my girls over something they think is silly. Because you just blink...and you are like me now, with 2 adult children and 2 teens.

Dan and Jenna Kryder said...

Thanks for your thoughts today. Haven't gotten a single thing "done" but keeping my one year old and two year old fed, changed, fed again, changed again, and not beating each other up :). Exhausted already and ashamed to be counting down to naptime but these little boys are the joy of my life!

Dan and Jenna Kryder said...

Thanks for your thoughts today. Haven't gotten a single thing "done" but keeping my one year old and two year old fed, changed, fed again, changed again, and not beating each other up :). Exhausted already and ashamed to be counting down to naptime but these little boys are the joy of my life!

The Mrs said...

Again, thank you. Today your post made me a little weepy, I'll admit. I'm so glad I found you blog!

lilndmama said...

I definitely have days where it flies by so quickly I wonder what I did! It's one thing I love about walking my son home from school is spending those 15 minutes chatting about his days; things that don't always have a chance to come up when we are driving home. :)

Margaret Feinberg said...

great ideas! I'll have to try a few

Lea also known as "CiCi" said...

You probably wrote this with busy Moms in mind, but it is great for all of us to remember. You have such insight and it's always a joy to stop by for a quick visit. Blessings for a wonderful week!

Chrissy said...

Oh Rachel, I am a new reader to your blog and have been soaking them up! I have a 21 month old and have found mothering a challenge, but your gentle encouragements and reminders to find joy are really helping me to get through the days when I look after him. I am a "rusher" and so that point above certainly did hit home, as well as check your thoughts. I think of all the "other" things that need to be done instead of the most important - my son. Thank you for your ideas of how I can still acknowledge those thoughts (by writing them down) and then go back to my son. By the end of reading your blogs, I usually have a little lump in my throat, and determine to make the next time I see my son count. Thanks again.
Chrissy (Abbotsford BC Canada)

Judy @ Contented at Home said...

"Don't rush." Only two words, but tons of truth here. Slowing down is definitely one of the greatest challenges of my life. I'm a mom of 7, I'm a blogger, I'm a do'er. Yes, I need the discipline of slowness in my life.

Stefanie Brown said...

"Don't Rush" resonated with me. I have a tendency to live a life of urgency, even when there isn't an urgent need. Pausing and soaking in moments is really what I long to do.

I love your ideas...

Aprille said...

#3 is my favorite because it's the one that I'm the best at.

#4 resonated because as soon as I do #3 I'm planning the next facebook update or blog post that I'm going to use #3 for.

seriously... :/

themahoganyway said...

I liked #5 best. Too many moms don't want to be real. Every moment of everyday is not sunshine and roses. I enjoy being around real moms and reading real moms blogs...those who can share the joys and challenges of motherhood.

Lynn said...

That first picture just really captured the joy of a first snow!
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